Trans Resilience is…

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Changes in Libido

After I decided to transition, but before I started Testosterone, I noticed changes in my libido. And then, about a month after I started Testosterone, my libido reached heights I never would have imagined. I was aroused, basically all of the time. It was actually annoying, as well as quite exciting. Of course, Testosterone asContinue reading “Changes in Libido”

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Gender Expression and Presentation

Because of our society’s bias toward the gender binary, and the policing of gender norms, a lot of trans people, as well as non-binary, gender-expansive, gender-queer, people feel the need to limit their gender expression. It’s important to point out that gender identity and gender expression are two separate things. You can choose to presentContinue reading “Gender Expression and Presentation”

Emotional Changes During Transition

This post is primarily for people who have chosen to do HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy.) Your emotions might fluctuate during transition if you aren’t on HRT, just because of your choice to come to an authentic expression of yourself. But hormones are really powerful, and can have large effects on our emotional lives. Emotional changesContinue reading “Emotional Changes During Transition”

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Conscious Communication

What does it mean to communicate “consciously”? And why is that even helpful? Conscious communication means several things: Being aware of your emotions in the moment Taking responsibility for your own emotions Speaking without defensiveness, blame or criticism Active and compassionate listening The point of communication is, of course to hear and be heard. ButContinue reading “Conscious Communication”

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How to Create a Relationship Life That Works for You

One of the great things about being trans or gender-expansive, is that we’re already breaking lots of cultural norms. How about introducing another norm to break: relationships! Relationship Anarchy: Know What You Want The concept of “Relationship Anarchy” is a relatively new one. The term was coined by a Swede, Andie Nordgren. The basic ideaContinue reading “How to Create a Relationship Life That Works for You”

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The Final Three Aspects of Trans Resilience

In the two posts before this, I outlined the first six aspects of Trans Resilience. Here are the final three. Another note: these are in no particular order – the first three are not necessarily more important than these last three. Explore the sensations of your body. Full embodiment is a challenge and journey forContinue reading “The Final Three Aspects of Trans Resilience”

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Three More Aspects of Trans Resilience

In my last post, I outlined three aspects of trans resilience. Here’s three more. A note: there is some overlap in these aspects, ways in which working on one (such as standing in your self-worth) will help with another (such as respecting your own and other’s gender journeys.) These are all really just guideposts toContinue reading “Three More Aspects of Trans Resilience”

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What Might Self-Care Look Like?

I’ve talked a lot about self-love and self-compassion. So what is “self-care?” It’s a pretty common term. Self-care, in my opinion, is a day-to-day willingness to act on self-love. This is most important in times of stress. Perhaps you just got misgendered, or had a difficult interaction with a family member who isn’t supportive ofContinue reading “What Might Self-Care Look Like?”

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Black Trans Lives Matter

Photo above: Mack Johnson, Sydney Baloue, Christian A’Xavier Lovehall, and Sunny Marks at the Philly Trans March in Philadelphia, PA on October 7, 2017. Photo by Sydney Baloue. (From 48Hills) This blog, this site, and my work is on purpose not about fighting for justice, equity and inclusion for trans and gender-expansive people. This doesn’tContinue reading “Black Trans Lives Matter”


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