Trans Resilience is…
I love the word “resilience.” Webster’s has two definitions. The first is “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.” The second one is more interesting: “the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress.” At first look, it seems likeContinue reading “What is “trans resilience”?”
I used to spend so much time in my head. Of course, I inhabited a body at the time, like everyone. But I didn’t really feel it much. That’s because for so many years growing up, feeling in my body didn’t feel good, or safe. So I simply stopped. This wasn’t a conscious choice –Continue reading “Elements of Embodiment, Part 3: Emotions in Our Bodies”
I spent a long time ignoring my body. I ignored my body because I didn’t like my body – it didn’t feel like it was “me” – and especially after puberty, I lived entirely in my head. When I absolutely had to pay attention to my body, because I was sick or injured, I resentedContinue reading “Elements of Embodiment, Part 2: Learning to Pay Attention to Body Sensations”
I’m starting a multi-part series on embodiment. You can read here a little basic information about what I think conscious embodiment means. I want to dive into what the journey of embodiment can look like for trans and gender-expansive folks, and how you might embark on your own. Of course, every trans and gender-expansive personContinue reading “Elements of Embodiment: Part 1”
Today, March 31st, is the International Transgender Day of Visibility. And as all of the social media, news and emails about this day surround you, remember that no matter what, you, as you are, in this moment, are valid and lovable. Perhaps you can’t be visible, because you haven’t started any transition, and you areContinue reading “Transgender Day of Visibility”
The fourth Divine Abode, or quality of heart and mind that is an important part of our practices of resilience, is “sympathetic joy” (mudita in Pali). Sympathetic joy is our ability to find joy in another person’s joy and good fortune. Joy can be, and should be contagious. Often, however, when we see other people’sContinue reading “Divine Abodes, Part 4: Sympathetic Joy”
I started out talking about the “Divine Abodes” in a trans and gender-expansive context in this first post, and followed it up with a post about compassion. The Buddhist concept of the “Divine Abodes” is four qualities of heart and mind which I see as qualities that are important for resilience. The third quality isContinue reading “Divine Abodes, Part 3: Equanimity”
I started out talking about the “Divine Abodes” in a trans and gender-expansive context in my last post. This is the Buddhist concept of four qualities of heart and mind which I see as qualities that are important for resilience. The second of these is compassion. Compassion is the concern for the suffering and misfortunesContinue reading “Divine Abodes, Part 2: Compassion”
There are four qualities of mind and heart which are considered virtues in Buddhism, often called the “Divine Abodes.” And cultivating these qualities is an important part of a meditation practice. In fact, these four qualities: loving-kindness (or beneficence), compassion, empathetic joy, and equanimity, are qualities considered important in many spiritual traditions. For example, theContinue reading “The Divine Abodes in Trans Context: Loving-kindness”
The Urban Dictionary defines Gender Euphoria as “The feeling a trans person gets when he/she/they are able to start presenting as the gender they identify as and people start treating them accordingly.” My first full experience of gender euphoria was a few weeks after top surgery. I was leaving the county courthouse, just having completedContinue reading “Gender Euphoria”
As a young adult, I often didn’t know what I was feeling. I didn’t learn what my feelings were, or what to do with them, well into my adulthood. And interestingly, transition has helped me both be more in touch with my feelings, but also to take them more in stride than I used to.Continue reading “Do You Know What You Are Feeling?”
I often teach two specific forms of Buddhist contemplative practice, Metta (the pali word for lovingkindness) and Karuna (the pali word for compassion.) The Metta practice I teach is geared toward developing lovingkindness toward ourselves. The Karuna practice is geared toward developing self-compassion. They are very similar ideas, but slightly different practices. And some peopleContinue reading “Contemplative Practices to Build Self-love and Self-compassion”
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